Well, it looks like I am a single woman again. We signed our papers last night, I took it a lot harder than I thought I would. Even though certain things happen and I am still hurt and bitter about a lot of it; just the realization that my marriage, that the last two years of my life were burning away with a scribble of ink was a hard pill to swallow.
But alas, I suppose this means its time to move on. I always thought that moving on from something, meant bigger and better things. And though that is my hope, it doesn't feel as good as I thought it should. With this journey into another divorce I've noticed that there are a lot of ways to celebrate such a life change- as if it should be a happy occasion. To the extent of celebrating its counterpart: a wedding.
Here we have a divorce cake:
A Just Divorced banner hanging on the back of a car:
The BLACK veil of divorce:
A Divorce Party planner:
And here you can even get formal invitations to "celebrate your freedom":
Am I the only one that sees the resemblance here? Are we now living in an age where divorce is as celebrated as the marriage that started it?? Does that mean that I am supposed to be celebrating and feeling good about this.
My heart is broken. Is that what I am celebrating??
Ok, ok I know I am sounding uptight about it. But really...I am just too busy picking up the pieces right now to throw a party.
Will I be ok? Yes. Will I be chillaxing with family and friends on my own time and whim? Absolutely. Will I go reserve a room in vegas, order a cake and celebrate til the wee hours in the morning that I have a failed marriage under my belt? I'm gonna say no.
Until next time....
I think the "celebration of divorce" is one of those things to mask over the reality that it actually is. It's a way to make other people think that your heart isn't broken and that you're excited for freedom... Like you said, you will be someday. But until then celebrate that you are a lovely person able to make a better life for yourself and leave the cheesy stuff to those needing to validate their choice to someone else. You know if the choice was right for you or not and that's all that matters.
ReplyDeleteThanks Kassi that was beautiful. I agree. My family ended up ambushing me with a "celebration" party. But I think they were just trying to cheer me up. I had a blast, but when the party ended I was still hurting. I think time is the only thing that really heals in this case.
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